‘A moment of silence for our brothers stuck in the friendzone’

We had a veeerrrryyyy interesting Connected hangout earlier this year where we discussed zoning.

Incase you’ve been living under a rock  for the past few years, or you are of a certain generation (I dont know what age that generation starts from), zoning essentially refers to when two single people of the opposite sex are good friends and somehow, can be nothing more.

As in, you didn’t even consider asking God or thinking twice about it. They just cant.

Why? Because he’s just my friend.

Needless to say, it was a very animated conversation- we made so much noise at Firewood that day, I’m almost sure we wont get invited back there.

There were ‘zoning’ and ‘zoned’ stories (everyone has one of those) and of course, different theories on why we zone or get zoned. Incase you are wondering what I think/learnt, you have to see me in camera

Of course, after the hangout, the memes started pouring in.

This one was hilarious.


Sounds familiar? The-I-just-zoned-myself situations.

It got me thinking though, about the times I didn’t even ask for somethings I wanted because I KNEW I was not ‘perfect enough’ for  it. Soon enough, someone else comes and gets it. And then its either that the person deserved it more, or life is not just fair.

But I didnt even ask!

Much more important than asking for material things is the importance of not zoning ourselves when it comes to our walk with God. Those moments, when we judge ourselves undeserving of some mercy from God, and dont even bother asking.

And just like that, we, by ourselves, zone our ownselves

Of course no one does this deliberately. Zoning is actually a very logical process. We add things up and come to the correct, informed decision that we dont measure up. (You sef check am things)

It’s a correct conclusion. BUT, it is not the whole story

‘If Abraham, by what he did for God, got God to approve him, he could certainly have taken credit for it. But the story we’re given is a God-story, not an Abraham-story’

Romans 4:2 (The Message Bible translation)

YOU cannot do enough to earn God’s blessing. YOU fall short.

That famous promise God gave Abraham—that he and his children would possess the earth—was not given because of something Abraham did or would do. It was based on God’s decision to put everything together for him, which Abraham then entered when he believed

Romans 4:13 (The Message Bible translation)

The complete story is that God fulfills the requirement for His blessing. Then He offers it to us. Just like that. No prerequisites to fulfill. Only believe.

So the question really is not ‘Do I deserve it?’, it is ‘Can you believe it?’

‘Will you believe it?’


In short, thou shalt not zone what the Word of God has not zoned

The next time you are looking around, waiting for the next worthy person that will step into a particular promise of God, pause. Tell yourself ‘Oga, stop it. Look into the Word of God again. Eez you that they want to bless’

Have a great week ahead

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